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I once read this anecdote about raising sons. A grateful son remembered how, when he was growing up, he, his brothers and his father would romp on the grass on the lawn that was carefully tended to by his mother. So one particularly active day on the lawn, the mom said to the dad, “You better stop the roughhousing right now because you’re ruining the grass!” And the father told the mother with a smile, “Honey, we’re not raising grass. We’re raising sons.” And boys will always be boys and it takes a good leader to rein them in, to let them go (most mothers won’t, I kid thee not!), to allow them to scale craggy mountains and scrape their knees, and break a leg during their climb. “I cannot think of any need in childhood as strong as the need for a father’s protection,” said Sigmund Freud. No, this isn’t a Father’s Day issue. But when we pay homage to scions who have grown up to have the strength of an oak and the resilience of the bamboo, we think of the vine from whence they came. We think of their fathers. *** When then Camarines Sur Gov. Luis Raymund “LRay” Villafuerte and his teenaged son Miguel Luis or “Migz” visited the John F. Kennedy Library and Museum in Boston in 2008, a new bond seemed to strengthen between father and son. The museum is dedicated “to all those who through the art of politics seek a new and better world.” I was with their party because LRay was then attending a Gawad Kalinga Summit with GK founder Tony Meloto, and I saw how this inspired LRay and Miguel. “People credit me for creating the CWC (Camarines Sur Watersports Complex) but it was actually my son Migz’s idea. That was what put us in the local and global tourism map, and I credit him for that,” says LRay of his son, now the incumbent Camarines Sur governor. Indeed, Camarines Sur has gone a long way from just being one of the country’s poorest provinces. Nine years, or three consecutive terms in office, was all it took for LRay to turn the province around. Now, Camarines Sur, or CamSur as it has become widely known, is one of the country’s leading tourist destinations, synonymous with the world-class CWC and the pristine beauty of the beaches of Caramoan, among its other scenic spots. The youngest-elected governor in Philippine history, Migz is set on continuing and even surpassing what his father has accomplished. LRay raised him and his siblings to be doers and risk-takers. “When your kids grow up without fear of taking risks and trying new things, they become confident. Their knees do not buckle at the possibility of failure. I believe Migz is exactly that — confident. And this is greatly helping him now in his role as governor. He has the confidence to do what is right, he has the confidence to follow his vision, he has the confidence to put his vision to action,” LRay says proudly. *** We also feature in this testosterone-packed issue three generations of Bienvenido Tantocos — the venerable Ambassador Bienvenido Tantoco Sr., his son Bienvenido Tantoco Jr. or Rico and Rustan’s Commercial Corp. president Bienvenido Tantoco III or Donnie. Each Tantoco generation does the ones before and after it proud, and this, Rico Tantoco credits to the discipline and leadership of the grand patriarch, now 93 years old. “We were not told to work hard. We just saw. So we thought this is how it should be. We were trained by example. This is what builds a person, hard work. If you want to be a good person, you’ve got to work,” Rico shares. On how Rustan’s has flourished all these years with family ties unbroken, Donnie says, “To have longevity, I believe a family business has to make decisions based on putting the well-being of the company above the interests of family, and the well-being of the family above the interests of any individual.”